............................. palika trudeau
........................................................................................ finding the joy in relationships
By Palika Trudeau, M.A. in Psychology
Do you remember being a kid and occasionally exclaiming “But that’s not fair!!!”?
And then getting the classic “Well, life’s not always fair” response?
Personally, I think a more complete truth would be… “Life is very fair… be patient and trust that everything balances out.”
So in this mood…trusting that things always balance…discover just how enjoyable it is to give and take in relationship.
And by the way, if you’re genuinely interested in keeping romance alive in your love life…especially consider exploring this key concept: Reciprocation: moving backwards and forwards.
In some relationships it’s amazing how much energy people misuse being uncompromising and defending their positions …Ultimately frittering away the romance.
On the contrary, the most fulfilling unions contain a healthy balance of give and take. But it is not just any old give and take that keeps love burning bright… The secret here lays in your attitude as you perform these acts of compromise.
So, how exactly do you acquiesce in a way that creates romance and magic?
Giving with an generous heart, as an offering of love, trusting that out of this situation only good will come… Knowing that this act of sacrifice will be received as love and the reciprocation that comes will be on a deeper heart level.
Yes, it really does boils down to surrendering with an open heart rather then with a reluctant disposition.
However, to genuinely renounce something for the sake of harmonious love, and maintain an affectionate spirit, thereby transforming your sacrifice into a romantic benefit…you truly have to trust the person you’re with and you have to trust yourself… knowing you both have clear boundaries that respect and honor your essences.
Therefore a key to feeling confidant in the dance of give and take is to understand both you and your partners natures, values, and sense of what you want to experience in life together...as well as your mutual commitment to creating this.
Having this birds eye view on yourselves and your life will allow you to quickly understand exactly where to be flexible and where not to be.
Which saves a lot of energy...Because, as pointed out earlier, it’s so easy to slip into the tiresome habit of being inflexible...and at a big price: Depleted romance and lower quality of life.
Compromise in a healthy relationship is not about losing yourself but rather about cooperation, gaining more depth of character, flexibility, harmony, and a deeper loving connection.
And the fact remains that the quality of your relationship is only as good as you decide to make it.
So why not choose to prioritize “give and take” with your most compatible life partner…using flexibility as your easy road to fun and romance.
Just remember to trust in the law of balance, and using the knowledge of yourselves, and your values as a “compromise compass”… relax and enjoy the amorous dance of harmony.
Palika Trudeau, M.A. in Psychology, is a relationship specialist. She is both an educator and in private practice. In her work with corporations, individuals, and private couples retreats, her extensive training and background in Eastern philosophy, paired with her education in modern psychology, gives her a unique perspective and approach to human development and life transformation. Trudeau works with an international, elite clientele, and specializes in creating sustainable, high quality relationships, helping clients quickly solve core problems and consciously create the life they want.
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